Trust. The seed of love.

Trust is the cornerstone that the temple of your love will be built upon. The most consistent flaw of relationships that I see is when people are in a relationship where they don’t particularly trust the other person. How can you make any substantial or real connection with your “loved” one if there is an undertone of distrust and suspicion?
If you acknowledge a problem without offering a solution, then you are just complaining. So here is my solution to the problem of lack of trust in a relationship. Get Out! Simple right? It really is. Why are you wasting your time loving someone when the cornerstone of your alleged love is not firm? It is conditional love, love based on how much he or she is willing to repeatedly profess their trustworthiness and perform acts that reinforce your fickle acceptance and faith.
Do we all fall short at times and act as less than completely trustworthy partners? Yes, we are imperfect humans and will have moments that cast an unflattering light upon us. But love sees past our human flaws and accepts that there is a deeper spiritual and emotional connection that will sustain us through the tough times.
So how do you build trust? Over time trust will come naturally. It cannot be forced and coerced. Interviewing, interrogating, badgering your loved one about where they are, what they are doing and who they are with doesn’t build trust. It builds contempt. The person asking the questions rarely fully believes the answers they are told and the person being asked the questions harbors more negative emotions and resentment.
I’m not saying that you should go blindly into a relationship and be naive to the point where someone abuses your trust but you have to trust unconditionally in order to love unconditionally. You have to have the ability to truly forgive but not forget. Don’t forget because you need to learn and grow from the experience but you must forgive, truly forgive. Otherwise you create an abyss of incomplete love. You have to believe that your partner loves you and respects you enough not to deceive you. If you don’t have those feelings, it’s not likely you ever will. It’s time to move on. Have the courage to admit to yourself that you are not with the right person.

Greetings From Kekui's Court

I was inspired to begin this blog by my best friend. I love her for all her support and inspiration. I was raised as the only male child in a house with 8 women. Yes I said 8. Thank God "The View" or "Oprah" wasn't around yet or I wouldn't have gotten any time watching G.I. Joe or The A-Team. I love women and I think that I was blessed to be raised in a loving home with so many women. They shared with me their perspectives on life and love, they educated me on the nuances and subtleties of the female psyche and they made me sensitive and understanding of what my role and responsibility was as a man. I am married and so now my greatest challenge is to love my wife in a way that both honors her and inspires pride from my matriarchs. So I am hoping this blog allows me to share my experiences of what I've learned on how to communicate, love, respect, fulfill and inspire the women in your life. Your friend, sister, mother and wife all are dynamic and amazing. Hopefully this blog will allow us to share, network, educate and inspire each other to be the best we can be. I encourage both men and women to join so we can embark on this journey together. The eyes of Kekui are upon us. Together we will see the light.